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I just want to highlight something, I want
to address something first of all, to the

young people who are being pressured into
getting married. I just want to say just a

couple things to you guys. Again, it’s not
the solution to all of your problems but at

least, I’ll highlight some things. First
and foremost, the relationship you are getting

into, you don’t go into a marriage thinking
you’re going to get divorced. You go into

marriage because this is going to be the next
half of your life. This is a lifelong commitment.

This is the next 50-60 years of your life.
It’s not a light decision. A lot of times

all you think about is the marriage ceremony,
the party, you know, making your parents happy.

That’s right now. What about ten years from
now, or fifteen years from now or twenty years

from now? Cause this one decision decides
the direction of the rest of your life. So

if there was one time where you speak out
and say your opinion, and take a stand, with

all due respect, this is the time. You’re
not being disrespectful this is a right Allah

gave you. This is a serious decision, which
has to do with you life. Not your parents’

life more than it has to do with yours. Of
course, you should be making a wise decision

on who you marry and what kind of person they
should be and your parents should have a say

in that. But your parents don’t have exclusive
say. The dominant say is actually yours. And

subhanallah, even the ayah (An Nisa: 21) “They’ve
taken from you.” Allah mentioned the women

themselves. You are going to be, the sisters
I am talking to now, you have to be comfortable

with the person you are marrying. Of course
if you come from a conservative family and

a religiously observing family, you don’t
go out and party, you don’t go out and talk

to men casually. You’re not going to get
to know the guy by going on a few dates before

you decide. Of course, you’re not going
to be comfortable entirely with marriage cause

it’s a new thing in your life but at least,
you’re going to have some level of comfort

with the idea. You’re going to be, “Okay,
you know what this seems like a good person

to myself, as best as I can find out within
the realm of Shariah, this seems to be a good

person, I think this is a good match for me.”
Sometimes it’s the best match and sometimes

people get married and get divorced. Lets
see what happened with Sahabah. We do our

due diligence right, you have to be happy
going in, you shouldn’t be settling in a

relationship going in. The same is true with
guys. Guys, speak up. Let your opinion be

heard. That doesn’t mean you’re being
disrespectful, unless you’re being disrespectful

in the way you say it. See, disrespect is
not about what you say, a lot of times what

you say is legitimate, you’re right, you
have the right to say something. But how you

choose to say it, the tone you choose to use,
so be wise when you bring this up to your

elders. To the elders, I would like to say
that if your children are 24, 25, even 22,

23 years old, they’re way over adults. And
if they come to you saying “I wanna marry

this girl”, “I wanna marry this man,”
and you’re living in the west, I mean I

have one more condition here, if you’re
living in the west, then try to understand

something. They would not have brought this
proposal up if they weren’t serious. Second

of all, they are not children anymore. You
can call them children when they are 85 years

old and you’re a 150. It won’t matter.
They’re not children anymore. They’re

adults. And this is not a kid going to a toyshop
saying, “I wanna buy that toy, get me an

iron man action figure.” So you just yell
at them and say, “No no, that’s not for

you, buy the ninja turtle instead.” This
is not the purchase of a toy. This is a life

decision. And these young people you should
discuss this decision with them but for a

lot of you parents, when they bring up a proposal,
you’re like “No way! Are you kidding me?”

And it becomes a matter of pride that your
child chose a person, not you. Look you brought

them into a western society, they’re mingling
with men and women all the time. The fact

that they may have found somebody, maybe not
in the most acceptable means Islamically but

it has already happened. They already like
somebody, they are already interested in marrying

someone. And you shut them down, and you say
no way, this will never happen, this is a

matter of our pride, this is a matter of our
religion. Well, there are so many other matters

of you religion where you ignored to teach
them properly, where you ignored to provide

them a healthy environment and now you’re
getting at them for making a choice or even

suggesting a choice. At least, consider the
choice. Become more open minded about the

possibilities, the world around you has changed.
The way you got married, they way even my

parents got married is a different time. Those
norms, those standards, cultural standards

have changed. The world around us has changed.
So we have to be open to the choices our children

are making. Look, if you’re sending your
son to college, you have enough trust in him

to send him to college, to let him work in
a non-Muslim society, if you’re sending

your daughter to school and she is getting
an education in a non-muslim society, you

trust her enough to send her out into a cruel,
corrupt world. To survive and to uphold her

values. So then you have to trust her enough
with her decision. At least, enough to consider

her decision, even if you don’t like the
choice at first, at least consider that decision.

So be a little more open minded about this
discussion and control the tempers. There

is no need for openly dramatic language, there
is no need for “Oh my God, all of my dreams

have shattered, you’re no longer my son.”
Take it easy, take it easy. Everyone should

be able to say how they feel. In many Muslim
cultures, parents don’t open up, when it’s

too late, and children don’t say anything
cause they’re too afraid of what their parents

might think. We need to change that culture.
We need to have a culture of open, honest
and yet at the same time respectful communication.

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Farouk Chiragh
5 months ago

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Afan Baris
5 months ago
Kenan Duaa
5 months ago

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Chanan Chohan
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Dilawar Dildar
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Dihyah Daris
5 months ago

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Ali Darvesh
5 months ago

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Darim Dul
5 months ago

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Changez Asif
4 months ago

the Muslims fast because Allah wants them to do so https://www.eaalim.com/download/index.php/blog/entry/fasting-on-hot-days-2.html

Dul Chamali
4 months ago

we have to take into consideration the Exorcism s’ utterance which is suitable for the situation. Protect your self by your self by “Quranic recitation over patient الرُّقْيَة”
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Bin Behram
4 months ago

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Fardeen Fahim
4 months ago

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Azan Ashar
4 months ago

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Kiyan Baris
4 months ago

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Cadi Dul
4 months ago

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Ammar Deniz
2 months ago

fasting is apart of Islam like the prayer and zakah it makes ones realize through onesown experiencehow it feels to be hungry
and thirsty and thus to gain true feels to be hungry and thirsty and thus to gain true appreciation of the needs of the poor https://www.eaalim.com/download/index.php/blog/entry/fasting-on-hot-days-2.html

Azan Kehkashan
2 months ago

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Ashar Aaqib
2 months ago

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Faisal Khair
2 months ago

remembering him that all what happened to him is an act of Allah and Allah isn’t unaware of what people do. Protect your self by your self by “Quranic recitation over patient الرُّقْيَة”
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Daniyal Fazal
2 months ago

-the Exorcism has to conclude covertly and overtly and the overtness is most preferable. Protect your self by your self by “Quranic recitation over patient الرُّقْيَة”
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Dani Baba
2 months ago

when there are sudden severe circumstances Muslims also are allowed to break their fast https://www.eaalim.com/download/index.php/blog/entry/fasting-on-hot-days-2.html

Abeer Baris
2 months ago

we should wakeup early enough to eatand finish Sahoor before dawn so as to avoid any chance of eating after the break dawn https://www.eaalim.com/download/index.php/blog/entry/fasting-on-hot-days-2.html

Kabeer Deen
2 months ago

So the legal Ruqyah is real stronghold because it counts sustainable cure specifically from magic Protect your self by your self by “Quranic recitation over patient الرُّقْيَة”
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Kaleem Cyrus
2 months ago

Quarelling , backbiting ,telling lies all of them lower the value of fasting https://www.eaalim.com/download/index.php/blog/entry/fasting-on-hot-days-2.html

Kamil Arab
2 months ago

the legal Ruqyah is true healing for all the diseases . Protect your self by your self by “Quranic recitation over patient الرُّقْيَة”
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Abbas Bader
2 months ago

when begin breaking fast you says :the thirst has gone ,the veins are moistened and the reward is confirmed If Allah wills https://www.eaalim.com/download/index.php/blog/entry/fasting-on-hot-days-2.html

Faizan Danish
2 months ago

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Bayazid Cenk
2 months ago

telling the patient that Allah Be Exalted and Glorified has promised the patient servants to fulfill their reward without account. Protect your self by your self by “Quranic recitation over patient الرُّقْيَة”
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Aaqib Asif
2 months ago

other evils are also make people get nothing from their fast but hunger https://www.eaalim.com/download/index.php/blog/entry/fasting-on-hot-days-2.html

Abir Bin
21 days ago

when there are sudden severe circumstances Muslims also are allowed to break their fast https://www.eaalim.com/download/index.php/blog/entry/fasting-on-hot-days-2.html

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