Published on February 19th, 2019 | by Eaalim Institute | Views: 197
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now maybe you were such a person maybe you were a person that wasn’t very religious at all and you were living life like the
Rest of your extended family but something came in your heart
And you said you know what I’m going to take this guidance seriously. I don’t know how it happened
Maybe Allah made it happen through some Youtube video
or It happened through some khutba you heard or a friend or however it happened
but you decided to make a change for the better in your life and
When you start changing the behavior in your life the first people to see a change in you will be your own family
They will notice it. They will notice that you’re not the same anymore
You don’t talk the same you don’t act the same you don’t go to the same places
You don’t even have the same friends anymore, and this necessarily happens when you take a turn towards islam
Necessarily you start losing friends
Because you’re old friends used to do pretty bad things and now you can’t do those things with them anymore
so you suffer a loss of friends and at the same time your family starts saying you’re acting a little too weird and
For the young man the family might even say what’s that thing on your face you forgot to shave?
what happened to you and
The girl starts wearing the job and the family might even be in shock
And this is a muslim family mind you they’ll say take that thing off your head, you’re gonna
Go out to the wedding looking like that? I can’t sit in the car with you like that
What do you think we are?
Who do you all of a sudden you’re the islamic role model who died and made you syeikh?
That all of a sudden, We should be looking up to you. Remember what you were like last year man, you were the party animal. Now, You’re going to go make salat? Yes? Seriously, please. We know what you’re really like
In other words this now don’t not only have you lost your friends
from your family you get the nastiest kinds of
Criticism all the time all the time
Every chance they get they say something to you they say something about your beard they say something about your habits of making salah they
say something about you going to the [igner] convention?
This is something about putting your children in islamic school they say something about sending your children to Sunday school
Are you getting up for fajr or isya‘ and going to the masjid they’ll have some comments for you
And those comments hurt they burn pretty good
This happens to young men in the audience where their parents start telling them to stop hanging out with their other Muslim friends
Don’t go to the Masjid don’t waste your time
I wallahei myself know of stories where the father found out that in between
The son used it because his classes were 3-4 hours apart in between classes he used to go to the masjid to pray dzuhr
And just study at the masjid instead of studying at the library where there’s plenty [of] things to look at
Might as well go make salah and pray in the masjid. I’ll be safer that way. Dad finds out
You’re becoming an extremist son
And what is the extremism in the eye of the father that the boy is making salah in the masjid that’s extremism for him
Subhanallah with Muslims themselves
You think non-Muslims are Averse [to] Islam have you seen what Muslim families are doing to their own?
What parents are doing to their children?
I know of cases myself where parents said we will not pay your college tuition
[we] will not look for a wedding made for you until you take that [hijab] off
We will not do it we do not accept you as our daughter until you take that thing off
We will not show our face in public with you, you can’t go with us anywhere
This is the mother telling and you know what they’ll say what’s amazing about that. They’ll make you feel bad [about] yourself
They’ll tell you what kind of daughter. Are you?
You should be ashamed to yourself. You’re embarrassing your parents. We’re Muslim, but we’re not Muslim Muslim
We’re not that we’re not those kind of Muslims. That’s not how we do things in our family
That’s what they’ll say our family [is] different
We don’t do things like that in our family that’s those masjid people don’t be like those masjid people
that’s what they’ll say, and you know what’s amazing about that if you look at a portrait of your
From back in the day good old great, Grandpa’s got a big old beard and you can’t even see grandma’s face
So who’s being true to the family and was an embarrassment to the family?
see this is Muslim families today and
You’re in the midst of all of this
And you know what happens because you’ve made a decision to turn towards islam if an enemy of Islam came to you and said
Abandon your religion you’d say oh yeah, I’m going to be even more committed
You would become energized in your zeal for the religion when the enemy attacks islam
We’d get even more fired up muslims get fired up in the craziest of ways
[if] somebody draws a cartoon about the messenger, sallallaahu, [Salaam] and Muslims go crazy, and they’ll burn some other [guy’s] car up or
Break somebody else because they’re really angry
But we get fired up when when something happens some something questions the dignity of our religion even [if] it makes sense or doesn’t make
But when your own family comes and says look, I love you. I’m worried about you. I don’t want you to become this way
This is [the] way of the people who fail out of college. You don’t have a career who have miserable lives
[I] don’t [want] you to fall into this extreme somebody is somebody’s putting you under their influence. You need to get away from them
They’re the ones pulling you away, so how do you deal with that? the most inappropriate
response to this pressure is Anger and
you know what that is the most common response to
Your parents start yelling at you for growing the beard and you’re a young, hot-blooded guy, what do you do? Oh, yeah?
It’s the sunnah you can’t tell me what to do you’re following culture, and I’m trying to follow islam
And you slam the door in their face way to go
because that’s what Allah wants you to do yell back at your parents and
they’re just take till they’re talking about your beard. What was it Ibraheem’s father talking about Alehissalaam?
was he talking about something small or something big
go make sajdah to the idols boy and
As he loses cool does he get angry?
we have to learn how to be with our parents as
Even when they call you away from deen, it doesn’t matter if they’re muslim or not
Allah Azza wajal tells us if they struggle against you to make you follow what they themselves have no knowledge of
Don’t obey them while at the same time
accompanying them in the most dignified fashion
Obeying them is separate respecting them [is] separate
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