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Adab a father and son walking

Published on March 4th, 2014 | by Abu Umayza | Views:



Wahb ibn al-Munabbih (the great Tabi’i) profound words of advice to his son

Wahb ibn al-Munabbih (the great Tabi’i) gave some profound words of advice to his son, thus:

يا بني لا تجادلن العلماء فتهون عليهم فيرفضوك ولا تمارين السفهاء فيجهلوا عليك ويشتموك فإنه يلحق بالعلماء من صبر ورأى رأيهم وينجو من السفهاء من صمت وسكت عنهم ولا تحسبن أنك إذا ماريت الفقيه إلا زدته غيظا دائبا ولا تحمين من قليل تسمعه فيوقعك في كثير تكرهه ولا تفضح نفسك لتشفى غيظك فإن جهل عليك جاهل فلينفعن إياك حلمك وإنك إذا لم تحسن حتى يحسن إليك فما أجرك وما فضلك على غيرك فإذا أردت الفضيلة فأحسن الى من أساء اليك واعف عمن ظلمك وانفع من لم ينفعك وانتظر ثواب ذلك من قبل الله فإن الحسنة الكاملة التي لا يريد صاحبها عليها ثوابا في الدني

“O my son, do not argue with the learned ones such lest you become lowly in their sight and thus neglected. And do not dispute with the foolish lest they in turn harm (insult) you (in ignorance). Indeed, the one who reaches the rank of the scholars is through patience and by seeing their point of view. And indeed, the one who is saved from the foolish is he who holds his tongue and remains silent from them. Think not that by arguing with the faqih, you will gain anything except increasing his anger and making him accustomed to that. Do not let your attempt to protect yourself from small matters that you hear, then lead you to fall into great matters which you dislike.

Do not expose yourself for the sake of gratifying your anger, and if an ignorant person harms you then let your forbearance benefit you. If you are someone who does good only when good is done to him, then what is your reward, and what is your virtue over others? Surely, if you wish for reward and virtue, then do good to the one who does you harm, forgive the one who has wronged you, benefit the one who brings you no benefit and wait for the reward of all that from Allah, for that is surely the complete righteous good deed which a person would not want to be merely rewarded for in this lowly world (i.e. he would want his reward to be in the Hereafter).”

[Ibn Hibban, Rawdhat al-’Uqala’, p.196]


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The more the people are guided to follow the goodness, the greater the opportunity for him to get the reward.

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