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Published on February 18th, 2019 | by Eaalim Institute | Views: 148

Story of an Old Man | Nouman Ali Khan | illustrated | Subtitled

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Script

If somebody comes across as.. saying they’re more intelligent

I don’t think those kind of people should be advised… by you

If they’re talking to you like that

I think it’s better to get them advised by elders or other peers

Because if you come-

If they’re talking like that to you and then you tell them

“I don’t think you should talk like that” or whatever

You’re just gonna create more antagonism

sometimes it’s good to get a third party

in a subtle and careful way, throw it in

And the other thing is-

This is what I learned- this is sometimes this wisdom you learn from elder Muslims

There’s this personal story

There’s a brother in a masjid (mosque)

I know, most of my best friends are really old

So they’re in their 70s and 80s and such, right?

There’s this really old gentleman and he

you know, we used to meet at the masjid everyday and stuff

And there was a fight in the masjid

There was a nasty fight and you know, when you see one of those, they’re pretty ugly, okay?

So these two guys are just going at it and they’re really nasty to each other

and you know, one basically calls the other dumb, essentially

I’ll do watered-down versions, okay?

But anyway, this older gentleman knows both of them

And stops talking to both of them

He’s always nice, he says “Salaam” to them, “How are you?” and just walks away

Usually he’s like- makes longer conversation

He’s very cordial, but he walks away

And you know, he’s so wonderful in his personality

Those people, they feel it

They feel like he doesn’t talk to us like he used to anymore

So one day, one of them, this happened in front of-

One of them just came up to him and says “You know, you don’t talk to me like you used to”

“Are you mad at me?”

He goes “No, I’m not mad at you at all”

He says “But you don’t talk to me the same way”

He goes “Yes, I don’t”

“So why don’t you?”

He says “Look, I saw you get angry with that other brother the other day..

…and I just got scared, maybe one day you’ll get angry at me…

…I’m just, uh, I wouldn’t want you to be angry at me, so I’m just trying to be safe”

Like he put it in such a soft way

And the guy felt so bad, he went and apologised to the other brother and they made up

Right, that’s the wisdom of an elder, you know, they know how to approach things

You know, and this sometimes, it’s the wa

it’s our demeanor towards people

You know, you can show some people, you can show someone that you’ve hurt their f- that they’ve hurt your feelings

without actually saying it

You can show it with sort of a distant demeanor

And you can-

And if people use hurtful words towards towards you

My advice is to distant yourself from them

In a respectful way there still

We don’t cut relations in Islam, we don’t do that

We don’t cut ourselves off from people

But it’s a healthy thing to distance yourself from someone who uses abusive language towards you

That’s a healthy thing to do

And if there’s any ounce of good in them, they will feel it

Right?

And they’ll come to you and say “What’s happening? Why are you talking to me?”

But if there’s no good in them, guess what?

They’ll say “Aah, good for them, good for me. I don’t want to talk to you anyway”

So that’s probably good for both of you

Right?

But distancing yourself is probably my best advice

InshaAllah ta’ala
That’s the- It’s a silent kind of advice.

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