Published on November 29th, 2012 | by Ummay Abdullah | Views: 551680
Life has become so fast paced that it takes every ounce of our effort just to follow our daily routine. But are we moving in the right direction? By earning a decent living, focusing on our careers, giving our children quality education and sending money to our parents regularly, are we really doing our duty? Do we think that we are doing enough to succeed in Akhira?
Islam does not end on Salat and Saum (fast); nor does it end on Shahada, zakat or Hajj. It truly is a system of life. We cannot become good Muslims if all we do is to follow Islam only when convenient. We have to accept and follow Islam as a whole system. Everyone knows that Islam preaches respecting and taking care of your parents. But to what extent? Busy as we are in our lives, when we call our parents once in a while or give financial help and send money to them, we think that we have fulfilled our religious obligation. But what does the Quran say in this regard?
“23. And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.”
“24. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.” (Al-Isra 17: Verse 23-24)
Subhan Allah! Just after Allah has ordered us to worship Him, He has ordered us to be dutiful and respectful to our parents, especially when they have reached old age. Why has so much emphasis been put on avoiding disrespect to our old parents? Because it is a fact of life that when people get old, they become short-tempered and sensitive. Beaten down with old age, ailments, and hardships of life, they get hurt by our thoughtless and insensitive remarks. We have to understand this; they will get irritable and impatient. However, we don’t always have to correct them. Instead, we should give them the time, love and dedication they deserve. Remember the times when our children get cranky when they are sick – we do not teach them to be patient but jump at their every whim to ease their suffering. That is how we must treat our parents when they are old. Just jump at their every whim, no matter how silly or pointless it may seem to us. And we need to make sure that we do all of this humbly. The only matter when we are ordered not to obey our parents is when they are forcing haram, kufr or shirk upon us. Even then, we have been ordered to treat our parents with kindness and love.
“15. But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do.” (Luqman 31: Verse 15)
In another verse, Allah has said:
“14. And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.” (Luqman 31: Verse 14)
Subhan Allah! Allah has ordered us to be thankful to Him and our parents! We need to remember to thank them for everything they have done for us; our brought up, our education, the love and care they showered upon us when we were young – just like we need to thank Allah for His uncountable blessings that He has bestowed upon us.
No matter how difficult it is for us to take time out for our parents, it is our duty as Muslims to do so. We need to look after them in every possible way; physically, financially and emotionally. Spend time listening and talking to them, take care of their needs and health, just like we would for our child.
The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) once said, “Let his nose be rubbed in the dust; let his nose be rubbed in the dust; let his nose be rubbed in the dust.” When asked, “Who is it that should be humiliated in such a way?” he answered, “That person who finds his parents, one or both of them, attaining old age in his life, but does not enter Paradise by serving them.” (Muslim)
Our Prophet (SAW) said: ”The Lord (Allah) is pleased when the parent is pleased, and He is displeased when the parent is displeased.” (Tirmidhi)
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