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Published on February 18th, 2019 | by Eaalim Institute | Views: 135

Cycle of Sin | illustrated | Nouman Ali Khan | Subtitled

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Let me just try to address this, I’ve given a lot of talks about this issue

The Cycle of Sin

Even good people, they’re praying, they’re reciting Quran, they’re even doing ‘umrah and ibadat

but a the same time they can’t get away

from certain evil practices in their alone time

There are two parts of this problem

one of those parts is spiritual

and the other part is psychological

and we have to address both of those parts

Let me start with psychological

only because most of the time when we have this discussion

we don’t address the psychological side

we only address the spiritual side

so I’ll try to adress the psychological side of this a little bit

You have to understand that there are in psychology, there are triggers

in other words, there are certain situations that make your mind

they release a certain chemicals in your brain

and they make you want to do some things in certain settings

They are triggers

So for an example, for a young man

I’ll give a crude example, a young man is watching an action movie

he’s watching the movie and he sees a beautiful woman

and as soon as he sees that one scene

his mind gets triggered

and he pauses the movie and watches something far worse

and he gets into the habit of doing that

it wasn’t the movie itself

it was just that one thing that triggered it

Or for some people when they go back into their apartment or their room

when they’re alone by themselves

bad things happen

when they’re by themselves

and when they’re at the Masjid obviously doesn’t happen

when they’re with their friends it doesn’t happen

when they’re on their own it happens

So the first bit of advice for everyone here and myself

is you have to identify “When does the sin happen?

When I’m by myself”

“Where am I when it happens”

“What time does it happen?”

and if you can identify the problem times

and the problem places

and the problem situations

you have to try to change those situations

You’re a young man and you have a problem with the kind of things that are available on the internet

and you’re looking at those kind of things for example

put you laptop, put your mobile device, put it in the kitchen

So that your mother’s walking by, your father’s walking by

and don’t put it in your room

and parents, put that stuff in a visible place in the house

these screens are destroying our kids

seriously

Then the other things, the spiritual side of this problem

It is normal for a human being to make taubah to Allah, and then go back and do the sin again

because we are khattaoon

Rasulullah (ﷺ) describe it not as Khattiuun, but khattaoon

كُلُّ بَنِي آدَمَ خَطَّاءٌ (Hadith)

and khattaa‘ is a Sighatul Mubalaghah, it’s called

the hyperbolized state. What that means? In simple English

is the one who repeats mistakes over and over and over again

like a khabbaz makes bread over and over again

you know, khattaamakes mistakes over and over again

so that will happen

it’s inevitable that some sin will occur over and over again

however

however however

if in the back on your mind

the moment you made taubah

you’re already thinking about “Three weeks from now, I’m gonna be doing this again anyway”

if you’re thinking that in the back of your head

وَلَيْسَتِ التَّوْبَةُ لِلَّذِينَ يَعْمَلُونَ السَّيِّئَاتِ (then (Quran 4:18

“Taubah is not for people who continually do evil deeds”

have already excepted it

وَلَمْ يُصِرُّوا عَلَىٰ مَا فَعَلُوا (Allah says (Quran 3:136

“They don’t insist on what they did”

In other words, you have to make a serious, verbalized, conscious commitment

“This has to stop!”

Not at one time you cry and you turn to Allah

“I’m so sorry, I can’t believe I did this”

and you don’t do it, you know

You have to figure out a way to get away from this entirely

a serious commitment to youself

and if you can’t do it on your own, seek the help of friends

seek the help of people you trust

I know it’s embarrasing sometimes

but we all need counsel and help sometimes

and when you realized that it’s been going on for years

and you haven’t been able to get out of it

it is time to seek someone else’s help

which is why in the Ummah today

psychological and spiritual counseling, is so important

so many young people are in need of counseling

and families are in need of counseling

that is the greatest priority in this Ummah
because that will be a vehicle by which peace will be delivered to the people.

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